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Copy of Mother's Day 2019

Mother's Day With Pauline, Alyssa, and Kate

This Mother's Day Pauline the Founder and Creative Director of Lilla P sat down with Alyssa Adams, Co-founder of Cabana Life, and Kate Reynolds, Co-founder of Studio Four NYC, to discuss motherhood and entrepreneurship. You can view the whole video at the bottom of this page.  


Lilla P, Cabana Life, and Studio Four Talk about Mother's Day

Alyssa Adams     Pauline Nakios      Kate Reynolds


How do you find that balance of work and life?

Pauline: You have to have this clear defined time. Every year I try to put the phone down when I walk into the apartment at 6 o’clock and it’s hard, it is a real struggle.

Kate: I was a little hard on myself when my business was about 2 years old and you try to figure out how much time you put into one versus the other. For me, my son was going to be the most important. I have vivid memories of running from our office to the R train, literally running to get those extra few minutes. All of my time is precious, I try to fully devote myself at work and also devote myself at home separately, and not spend my time overlapping.

Alyssa: I don’t think there is ever a balance. Your mind is constantly focused on the two most important things, which is your kids and your business. One of the things I really try to do is 7:30 am - 6 pm I’m working then from 6 o’clock to 9 o’clock I am present with my kids. That is the best balance I can find.


Is there anything you wish you were told before having kids?

Pauline: There’s so much unknown - it’s full of surprises, and I would have not wanted to know more than I know now. Other than time starts to fly but just to really take every moment and really appreciate it. One of my sister’s said, everything is a stage and the stages get better and better. That infant stage, this is so hard and my sister told me “this too shall pass.”

Kate: Right when you get used to it, it passes, until you get a new curveball.

Alyssa: You’re a little sad when it’s over. You are remorseful you don't have those toddler years anymore.


What do you think your kids will take away from seeing you working?

Pauline: Part of me owning my own business is that they have seen things and hear us - things that work and don’t work. Learning that you can fall and get back up and taking advantage of opportunities.

Kate: I lean on my mom for this and she was always kind to everyone. It is very important my kids learn that kindness. The ability to just take time out of their day to see how someone else is doing and how they are feeling. I think is something that will get you far in life and make you a happier version of yourself.

Alyssa: It is installing a sense of curiosity in my kids. They constantly hear a lot and they are curious about it and they can dig in.


Lilla P Mother's Day Interview


How would you formulate your perfect day with your kids and what do you do for “you” time?

Pauline: There are so few days I have nothing to do that it is kind of nice when I literally have nothing to do. We have also been spending a lot more time in Charleston where I am from and that is really has been simple in a nonsimple way. Being in Charleston and just letting them go. It is really really nice seeing them be in a new environment, with new people and watching them flourish and make new relationships. I have gotten really great at “me” time. If they have things that they want to do and I will take that time. 

Kate: I am quite simple but the perfect family time is not having that many plans. Our eight year old loves to go to museums. We also just stay around our neighborhood and take our dog to the park. My “you” time if I get it - I love being with them so much that it is hard for me to keep it “you” time. I love to walk around New York and say hi to strangers. 

Alyssa: If I’m not home my perfect day is discovering the city with my family. I love to find little new restaurants, little galleries, fun shops. I like new things, so that is definitely the perfect day with the family is watching them react to different ways of living and different cities.


Any additional advice?

Pauline: Other than how fast it goes, I don’t know that I actually wanted the advice, I was so scared to ask too much. I’ve read every book to tell you what to do. You miss so much when you over plan though, and you’ll fall short of expectations, so just living in the moment. Use your time better and in a more meaningful way.

Kate: To me motherhood, makes you a better manager. It forces you to look outside the box.

Alyssa: Let them fall down and they will figure it out and I let them try and do that. As a working mom, because you can’t do it all, they are forced to figure it out more, which is almost better for them in the long run. It can be really helpful for them to navigate the way sooner without you there. We’re past that “Helicopter Parent” generation.